Showing posts with label Parenting. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Parenting. Show all posts

Wednesday, March 21, 2007

Humbled By the War I Cannot Win

Paul Tripp has an excellent personal paraphrase of Romans 7 and Psalm 51 on his website today. Just what I needed today as I have been beset and given in all day to impatience and frustration. Thanks be to God!

Here's an excerpt, go here for the entire thing.

I am thankful for God’s grace, but there is daily evidence that I'm still in need of help.
That battle inside me cannot be solved by
Theology
Strategies
Principles
Techniques
Plans
Preparation
Helpful hints
Outlines
I have been humbled by the war I cannot win.
I have been grieved by desires I cannot conquer.
I have been confronted by actions I cannot excuse.
And I have come to confess that what I really need is rescue.
So, have mercy on me, O God,
According to your unfailing love
According to your great compassion
Blot out my transgressions.
Wash away all my iniquity
And cleanse me from my sin.
For I know my transgressions
And my sin is always before me.
I embrace the rescue that could only be found in you.
Thanks be to God – through Jesus Christ our Lord!

Wednesday, February 07, 2007

Should I Be Worried?

My 6 year old son’s response to the very sparse description of Laura & Almanzo’s wedding in These Happy Golden Years:

“Awwww, they didn’t even kiss!”

Saturday, August 12, 2006

The Reason for Rote

This is a little scrap of conversation from The Daisy Chain, by Charlotte Yonge, a truly delightful book, full of gems and thoughts on church tradition and classical education.

Shocked and saddened by the “Ladies’ Committee” decision to “leave off reading the Prayer-book prayers morning and evening!” at the neighborhood school, Ethel, the awkward but deep-thinking heroine, laments:

“And it is much to be expected that next they will attack all learning by heart…If they don’t learn them (the Psalms – the Gospels – these ties—these links to the church) by rote when they have strong memories…they will not know them well enough to understand them when they are old enough!…memory and association come before comprehension, so that one ought to know all good things…with familiarity before one can understand, because understanding does not make one love. Oh! One does that before, and when the first little gleam, little bit of a sparklet of the meaning does come, then it is so valuable and so delightful.”

Her wise and theologically astute older brother, Richard, agrees with her,

“…these lessons and holy words were to be impressed on us here from infancy on earth, that we might be always unraveling their meaning, and learn it fully at last…”

I can only say…Amen!

Tuesday, April 04, 2006

We Will Tell the Next Generation ~ Catechism

As I mentioned in my last post, we believe strongly in the value of catechizing our children. Dr. Kim Riddlebarger had a great article on the practice of catechism on yesterday's blog. I'd like to share a few highlights, and my own observations.

Catechism (from the Greek word catechesis) is simply instruction in the basic doctrines of the Christian faith. Instead of replacing or supplanting the role of the Bible in Christian education, catechism ideally serves as the basis for it. For the practice of catechism, as properly understood, is the Christian equivalent of looking at the box top of a jig-saw puzzle before one starts to put all of those hundreds of little pieces together.

In our family, catechism has been a wonderful tool to get our children thinking deeply and biblically about the real questions of life. I have a precious memory of a certain sleepy little three year old, having learned his newest catechism question, telling his older brother who was carrying him from the car to bed, "Caleb, God is a spirit, and he has no body like we do." (just in case big brother Caleb, age 16, didn’t know!) That deep and unfathomable truth was filling his mind, even as he was drifting off to sleep.

...Protestants have always argued that creeds, confessions and catechisms are authoritative only in so far as they faithfully reflect the teaching of Holy Scripture. This means that the use of catechisms, which correctly summarize biblical teaching, does not negate or remove the role of Holy Scripture. Instead, these same creeds, confessions and catechisms, as summary statements of what the Holy Scriptures themselves teach about a particular doctrine, should serve as a kind of spring-board to more effective Bible study.

Amen...the catechism and creeds you choose must be completely biblical. We like the Westminster Shorter Catechism for kids 10 and up, and the First Catechism, Biblical Truth for God's Children. Whatever catechism you choose, be sure to read it all the way through and make sure it lines up with Scripture!

The practice of catechism also serves as an important safeguard against heresy and helps to mitigate some of the problems associated with the private interpretation of Scripture. How many times have you been forced to sit through a Bible study in which the goal was not to discover what the text actually says, but instead to discover what a particular verse means to each of the studies' participants? When we remember that virtually every cult in America began with an open Bible and a charismatic leader who could ensure his or her followers that they alone have discovered what everyone else, especially the creeds, confessions and catechisms, have missed, we see perhaps the greatest value of catechism. These guides protect us from such errors and self-deluded teachers. As American evangelicals have moved away from the practice of catechism for subjective and experiential modes of meaning, it is no accident that biblical illiteracy has risen to embarrassing levels and that false doctrines have rushed in like a flood.

This is sobering and convicting. Cults tend to target "churched" kids, because they are attracted to spiritual things, but tend to be so ignorant of Scripture, that they make easy marks for conversion. Protecting our children from error is a fundamental responsibility of Christian parents. A solid program of Scripture memory, catechism, and creeds is a first-line defense against this kind of error. Random memorization of Scripture verses will not give children this kind of theological protection. I know this will make many evangelical Christians nervous, but please understand what I am saying here. I am arguing for a thoroughly biblical systematic theology course for our children, from the earliest possible age...and the best practical way we have found to implement this is the use training program consisting of catechism, Scripture memory, and creeds to teach our kids the fundamentals of the faith.

Making sure our children can recite catechism and creeds will not regenerate them...only God's work in their hearts can do that...but it will give them a solid foundation and understanding for the faith that I am confident He will work out in their hearts. And it is their hearts we are after. My wise friend, Mary Ellen, now at home with the Lord, once said, "You can teach a parrot to recite the sinner's prayer (catechism and creeds), but we want their hearts!" (italics mine). In addition to the need for a systematic training program in Scriptural truth, children need to see their parents earnestly seeking God, and loving and serving Him with their whole hearts. Children must be encouraged to take the truths they are learning, and apply them to their daily lives. If the catechism, Scripture memory, and creeds are rote, and unaccompanied by any requirement in daily life to live out true faith, they will produce little or no fruit in a child's life and heart.

Even in the absence of the parent's example and discipline, however, God can use memorized truth as a "handle" for the Holy Spirit's work in drawing a person to Christ. I can use myself as an example here. Even though my parents did not actively teach or live out Scripture in our home, they did make sure I attended church every Sunday. It was an Episcopal church, not particularly "alive", but in the liturgy each week, I heard deep truths of Scripture, and theological teaching from the Book of Common Prayer and great hymns of the faith. All of that made a deep impression on my spirit, and God used it as He drew me to Himself in my early twenties. I am so grateful for my heritage.

One of the best by-products of parents taking an active role in catechizing their kids, is that they also catechize themselves in the process! ...There are surprising practical ramifications that result from the practice of catechism as well. ...Too often people assume that the place to start learning theology is through tackling technical theological writing, when in fact the creeds and catechisms of the Reformation were designed to instruct novices in the faith. Starting with the catechism and confessions is really a better way to go.

This is unspeakably true! I heartily agree that has been true in our home. I am convinced being a parent (particularly a homeschooling parent) is truly God's discipleship of ME! And I think we as individuals and churches would do well to take Dr. Riddlebarger's advice to heart in the discipleship of new believers as well as the training of our children.

Well, once I get going, I can't stop. I guess this is why I post so infrequently! I highly recommend reading Dr. Riddlebarger's article linked above. He also gives some great practical tips for teaching your children the catechism. In my previous post, I also listed some good resources for this training.

Monday, March 20, 2006

We Will Tell the Next Generation ~ Family Devotions

...We will tell the next generation
the praiseworthy deeds of the LORD,
his power, and the wonders he has done.
Psalm 78:4b

Barbara over at Mommy Life has a wonderful post today about Family Devotions in her home. I commented there and told about some of the things we do in this regard, and I got so excited I decided to start a little mini-series on this subject of passing on our faith to our kids. In our homeschool, and in our everyday life, we try to be very intentional about teaching our children deep doctrinal truths. We want them to have a bedrock foundation so that the Holy Spirit has lots of "handles" with which to grab our children's hearts in His good timing.

I am grateful and blessed to have a husband who has a very short commute and so has time to lead our family in devotions every morning before he leaves. There have been seasons when that wasn't the case, and family devotions were in the evening, or whenever we could manage to get everyone together. I know everyone doesn't have this ability, and I think it's just important to set a regular routine and stick to it. If Rick couldn't do it in the mornings, I made sure I did something during the day, even if it was just a short Bible story and prayer before naps. And we have had plenty of times when our family devotions are disrupted by crying or uncooperative children, but as they have grown, they have learned that this is what we do together daily as a family. Daily perseverance is truly the key.

Since both Rick and I were raised in the Episcopal Church (see the last post), we both have a deep respect and love for the Book of Common Prayer. We begin our daily devotional time with Morning Prayer. It's amazing how quickly our kids have learned the prayers, the Apostle's Creeds, and the Scriptures that are part of the service. Each child has a prayer book, and even the non-readers like to follow along.

After that, Rick usually uses a daily devotional called "Training Hearts, Teaching Minds" which goes through the questions of the Westminster Shorter Catechism, one question each week, with five days of teaching and application on each one.

I have a list of Scripture that the kids memorize individually from age 3 up as well. And we memorize things together as a family.

All of our kids are also memorizing catechism questions. The younger kids use First Catechism from Great Commission Publications, and then they graduate to the Westminster Shorter by the time they are about 10 or so. I start my little guys at age 3 with the First Catechism, and it is just so cool to hear them...and then to see them start making connections with every area of their lives...

Who made you? God...
What else did God make? God made all things...
Why did God make you and all things? For his own glory...
How can you glorify God? By loving Him and doing what He commands...
Why are you to glorify God? Because He made me and takes care of me...

Talk about TRUE self-worth! :) I highly recommend catechizing your kids. I am amazed at the doctrine I have learned, even from the First Catechism. And it sure helps in answering those unanswerable questions kids love to ask.

Great Commission also has a neat little thing called Memory Work Notebook by Paul Settle. It divides the catechism questions into a grouping for each year from age 3 to 12th grade, with suggested Scripture and hymns and creeds to memorize as well. I have found that to be a great track to run on. There's also a CD of songs that reinforce these catechism questions by Judy Rogers called "Why Can't I See God?" It is excellent!

We also sing hymns, and do other things with Scripture during the day. I will post some more of the things we do in future posts.

Saturday, December 10, 2005

Boys and how they play

Dominion family has a great post about the "absence" of children in our culture. Makes me think of a funny but scary story a friend of mine tells about her son when they lived for a short time in the suburbs while they were building a house. I think he was about 10 years old, and he was playing in his backyard, dressed in his camo, with his black spray painted gun (horrors...he covered the orange tip!) My friend heard voices in her front yard and went to investigate. There were two policeman, laughing. They had come to investigate a neighbor's report of an armed man in the neighborhood. We still laugh, although it's sobering to think what might have happened.

I am so grateful to live in the country with a creek and lots of open space where my kids can play mostly unsupervised. Yes, it has snakes and ticks and stuff...I have learned not to worry too much, although you don't catch me out there very often! :) We have swords and guns and...gasp...rarely use bike helmets. We've had plenty of stitches, beestings, and even several bouts of Lyme disease, but I wouldn't trade the freedom our kids have to play and run for a "safer" environment
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Wednesday, November 30, 2005

Warning to parents

The Common Room: God is Not Your Vending Machine

Please, read this. It is a very long and excellent post that every parent of a teen or even younger child should read. It is very thought-provoking and well thought-out, and has links to other blogs posting about the Kara Borden/David Ludwig story.

I can't say it enough. KNOW what you children are doing, on the internet and elsewhere. Don't just assume because you are homeschooling that your child is safe. We MUST shelter our children's hearts, and teach them about the deceptive nature of sin. Don't assume your children are mature in their faith just because they "talk the talk" -- David and Kara did too...

And you can hold me accountable to do the same for my children.

And above all, this has really convicted me of the need to pray for my children fervently and constantly. They're His kids, and He loves them more than I. But I must be a faithful steward, and that means KNOWING and PRAYING!